I'm a guy who has just joined this Group  because this is the only place I can find people with a similar circumstances. I've been married for 14 yrs. I love my wife and my children. Nine months ago my wife had a baseball sized tumor(non-cancerous ) removed from the area of her cervix.  She also had a complete hysterectomy.

Since her procedure, intercourse is out of the question. She is no longer capable of having an orgasm and her sex drive no longer exist. I now feel as though I no longer have a wife, instead I have a diabolical roommate. Sexually we do other things, she does have a talented tongue, but I feel as though she is doing her "duty". I do love her and I want to be a supportive influence in her life. I just REALLY REALLY miss the touch and feel of a woman and the connection two people feel through sex!

 

I feel as though I am an attractive man who is only 36 with high sex drive and I don't want to give up on my sex life yet. I try to hide it, but I know my wife has picked up on my frustrations. She has offered to let me have sex with another woman, but I know that she really didn't mean it.  I really do not want to add to her heartbreak, yet I would love to do it! I've been considering doing it behind her back. I know it sounds bad but I really do not want to hurt her. Do you think I should? I can tell that other women are attracted to me but I do not consider myself to be a pick up artist, it is just not a part of my skill set (I've been married a long time). Besides, the thought of having one night stands is not attractive to me. Also, a prostitute is out of the question, I've never paid for it and never will. I really don't want to risk disease. All that being said, I really doubt if I could find a attractive respectable woman who was willing to be my booty call, or could I?. Am I just dreaming here?
 

I would really like to know what everyone in this groups thinks about all of this, both for and against.