Show you love the little ones by disciplining them; they'll know you love them when you set boundaries.

Are the Toddlers demanding their way too much?
Do you want to be a good parent & help the preschooler learn
how to mind & respect you?

               Even a parent who wants to do their best by their young child, 

(who would never consider giving a spanking)
can become exasperated and yell, hit, pull hair or scratch a
defiant, strong-willed child when, as a parent,
they have a child who is out of control. . . even a caring parent can become abusive.

What is a spoiled child? It's not being given too much...it
is a child who does whatever he wants to do, whenever he wants
to do it. Has the child learned that every time he throws a fit,
he can get his own way?

Show you love the little ones by disciplining them; they'll know
you love them when you set boundaries. It is work mom and dad,
but it will be worth it. Do you want them to learn all they
can in school, or be a discipline problem there, too? Do you
want them to defy society's authority & end up in prison? Do
you want them to know and be able to submit to God's plan for
their life? Better to consistently
teach the preschooler to respect your authority than to learn
the lessons of life the hard way, and break your heart.

Something like this discipline should work nicely:

"OK, sit on this chair, just sit there...No talking allowed.
Here is the timer, and when the timer goes off in 5
minutes, you can get up" (5 minutes "on the bench")

Does the child still throw a fit?
"The sooner you get started, the sooner you'll get done."

Have them sit in the same room where you are...until the discipline
period is over; fellowship with you is broken, but you are not
shunning them. (When a child is sent to his room, he probably
feels like he is being shunned.)

This would be a good time for quiet time for everyone. TV, radio,
& music OFF. Get a book and read. It's a cooling off time for
parent, too.

Do you have a smart kid? And you are too busy to remember all
the things you've said to do? Write them down, mom & dad!

Do you have a strong-willed child? James Dobson's book, 

The Strong-Willed Child has good helps. I've heard there is a modernized
video presenting the book's principles, as well.

Brothers should also be taught never to hit their sister. If
sister has done something wrong, mom or dad will deal with her,
but brother, you do not hit your sister and you do not wrestle
with sister, either. (This is good preparation for boys to be
good husbands in the future.)

In cases of possible life & death a spanking may be necessary;
however, do not use your hand. The hands are for healing...and
maybe they can be too forceful. Have you told the little one
not to run out in front of cars? Have you repeatedly told him
not to climb high in a tree where he might fall & get a concussion?
A brief spanking may be in order.

Do you believe in the rod of correction? Aaron's rod the Bible
talks about was the rod of authority. It was an almond branch,
covered with flowers. Hear the tenderness?

 

This information was shared with me by a Christian mother older than me.   The Bible encourages a mature woman to share what she knows with the younger women.  I wish I knew these things when I was raising my children.     I give credit for these guidelines to a wise mother, my friend, Helen, who lives in IL.  She said she prayed about it a lot & I know her to be a very disciplined person who followed through and was consistent.  Her children turned out well.   If a child's personality is fairly well set by the age of  5 years, we don't have much time to figure this out.  Best wishes to all parents. -Diann

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